20 things I learned in my Twenties (Birthday)

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Within a couple of days, I’ll be almost 30! And although I don’t feel like it, it will definitely be weird to say, but age is just a number, right?! My 20’s have been good to me, I graduated college, changed careers, moved across country, traveled to some amazing places, started my blog. Now with all that fun I also had my fair share of trials and tribulations. They weren't wrong when they said, “your 20’s is for finding yourself”. Took me sometime to come up with this list. I've been working on it for the past year. Here are 20 things I learned in my 20s that may help you! 


1.     If you’re unsure or don’t like something speak up. Closed lips can't be heard. 

2.     You don’t have to like everyone, and everyone isn't going to like you, and that’s okay. As long as you are being yourself. 

3.     It’s okay if you make a mistake, it’s how you bounce back from it. 

4.     Nothing good comes easy, you may have to work a little harder to get what you want. 

5.     Understand that change is good, it may be hard and uncomfortable at first but without it we cannot grow. It always seems impossible until it’s done. – Nelson Mandela 

6.     Remember life is a marathon not a sprint. You may want to skip the difficult times, but these are the times that shape you into the person you are becoming. As hard as they may be, cherish them. 

7.     Indulge in the things that make you happy but don’t go broke doing so. 

8.     You can’t be dependent on others to make you happy, evolve, and take responsibility for your actions. 

9.     Whatever is hurtful to you, do not do to any other person. Be nice, if you were to die tomorrow how do you want people to remember you. How you treat a person can have a lasting effect on them.  

10.  Your past does not define you or your future. Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future. – Oscar Wilde


11.  Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world. – Nelson Mandela Never stop learning, especially about things that interest you or you're passionate about. 

12.  Never judge a book by its cover. We don’t know what makes a person act a certain way and what they’ve been through in life. It’s funny how we all seem to forget important life lessons that we were taught in kindergarten. 

13.  It’s not about quantity but quality, especially with friends and family. The ones that truly care for you will show up, nurture those relationships. In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. – Martin Luther King Jr. 

14.  You only get one body in this life, cherish, take care of it, if you aren’t happy with it ...change it for yourself. 

15.  Not every action deserves a reaction. This may be hard and challenging but focus on your patience and learn to let the little things go that you cannot change. or affect your future in a negative way.

16.  Invest in key staple wardrobe pieces that fit and are made well. I.e. a good leather jacket, a classic black or blue suit, etc. 

17.  In order to let go of any wall you’ve built for yourself understand when and why it was built. Sometimes we have to let things go to make space for new and better things in our life. 

18.  Stop making excuses for yourself and others. If you messed up or hurt another person’s feelings apologize. This does not make you weak, it takes a bigger person to humble themselves and admit when they are wrong.

19.  Start saving money now, invest. You can’t predict the future and you never know when you might need extra money. 

20.  No one likes a cocky asshole, be humble, let go of your ego and be thankful.


Extra Credit ***
Everyone fails: Steve Jobs was fired from the company he founded, J.K. Rowling lived on welfare for awhile, Oprah was fired from a news anchor position, George Clooney has made quite a few terrible movies and Paul McCartney has written some bad songs. Failing is what success is built on, so embrace it and do not fear it. Failure means you're doing things- the more you take risks and make hard decisions, the closer you are to success.

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